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Are You Ready For Love ?
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Are You Ready For True Love...
that's the real question? Pt.2
Rev. Israel Malik Esters
So the real Question when considering allowing someone into you life world and affairs, as a romantic partner....one that you will ultimately, share everything with; One that you will have to stand naked before and not be ashamed; The question one needs to ask is "What am I trying to heal by entering into this affair? What am I expecting this person to do for me, that I haven't done for myself? What am I attempting to avoid?" You say that sounds so NOT romantic, and yet it is the most ROMANTIC THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF!
Have you truly loved and valued and honored yourself? In the relationship of your ego and the divine self, have you learned how to love and cherish you? Or are you looking and wanting someone else to do it? You see I find it fascinating that when pressed, people will describe the person they want. "I want someone who will appreciate me, love me, care for me, take care of me, sex me, honor me and hold me tight when I need it. I want someone who won't lie to me." And yet my question to you my friend is how long have you been lying to yourself? How long have you been lying to yourself about the pain YOU ARE REALLY IN? How long have you been lying to yourself about your choices and about your life? How long have you've been lying about who you really are? Yes, my initial question was "Are You READY For True Love? Well?
Do you appreciate you? Do you CARE for your OWN heart? If you do then why do you continue to place yourself in the same "heart-breaking" situations? I know this is tight for some of you...if you've been lying to yourself for an extended amount of time, deluding yourself, you certainly won't want to hear this! But you must in order to be totally free to love and be love completely without all of the drama!
You want someone to take care of you, but do you REALLY take care of yourself? Are you addressing your mental health issues? Are you working diligently on your emotional blocks? And are you caring for your body temple?
Now you tell me honestly, DO YOU REALLY THINK YOU'RE READY FOR TRUE LOVE?
You see you must understand one of the aspects of true love; True love is also about providing these things mentioned above, for your partner. The very real truth is you cannot provide anything to anyone that you have not or cannot provide for yourself first!
So the break-down goes something like this; You have two broken people or one that is more broken than the other, and they get into this relationship based on all of the falsehoods I presented in Chapter One. They come together with the giddy anticipation that their needs are going to be met...."yippy, I found someone, I found someone! Oh this is it! He's perfect, he's the one! She's IT!" It's almost...ALMOST, funny.
They're both standing there with a cup in their hands and signs around their necks which say "Fill me up, make me happy!" They're standing there gazing into each others' eyes with those stupid, "I'm in love" grins on their faces...but both cups are empty! Or you have one with a full cup who thinks, "I can give them some of mine." (if I just love them enough they will be all right) So that one (and this is classic) gives and gives and gives and gives and gives.....and gives...and g-i-v-e-s a...n...d...... gg....ii....vv..ees, until they have nothing TO GIVE; And you stand there wondering, why the "perfect" one is not giving back to you? Well, they started off with nothing in their cup and you get closer thinking" but I've been giving....and then you see....THEIR cup is made of paper, and it has a HOLE IN IT!
LESSON ONE (GET READY, HERE COMES A FAST BALL OF TRUTH!)
YOU CAN'T FILL OR HEAL THE HOLE IN ANOTHER'S SOUL!
For those that get that, I just saved you years of grief, agony, stress and pain. I just gave you a million dollars worth of information right there! If you only KNEW!
You see we have looked at relationships ALL WRONG! We have to have a new INTENTION when it comes to relationships. When two complete or fairly complete ego souls come together, the INTENTION is totally different than the Cinderella waiting on the prince....or the prince looking for that perfect Cinderella. Two spiritual souls see that relationship is about knowing and growing more of whom the other IS already! It's about becoming more of whom I AM; More loving, more dynamic, more in tune with the infinite, and loving my partner for motivating me to be and express who I AM already! Good GOD that's good preaching! I'll save that for Part 4.
So say the next 22 words aloud please. "So what I need to do right now is check myself. I need to first establish an relationship with and for myself."
Now I'm speaking for those NOT in a relationship. If you are in one, then your work is similar with the added task of taking your mind completely OFF of what my partner is not doing and working with re-knowing and re -creating myself! Everything you say you want in a relationship you need to make sure you are being that to yourself...if not, then YOU ARE NOT READY!
Now how does the law of attraction work in this? When you are truly ready and are are loving and honoring yourself, and you have done real spiritual work within, your aura will be that of ecstatic joy. You see it's funny how we are; You hear people whine and moan about how unhappy they are, how lonely they are; If you are sad about being alone....YOU'RE NOT READY. And what you will attract will be another sad person. Just a glob of sadness and unresolved issues. And God help you if you are a heterosexual woman and you attract a sad man? You talk about something sad, there's nothing sadder than a man that's sad.
Now when you are having a wonderful affair with SELF, you will attract someone who is having a marvelous time with their -SELF and THAT is TRUE BLISS. THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT. That is when you're ready for true love.
Part Three next week: How can you be ready for TRUE LOVE when you won't release the old?
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Are You Ready For True Love...
that's the real question? Pt.2
Rev. Israel Malik Esters
So the real Question when considering allowing someone into you life world and affairs, as a romantic partner....one that you will ultimately, share everything with; One that you will have to stand naked before and not be ashamed; The question one needs to ask is "What am I trying to heal by entering into this affair? What am I expecting this person to do for me, that I haven't done for myself? What am I attempting to avoid?" You say that sounds so NOT romantic, and yet it is the most ROMANTIC THING YOU CAN DO FOR YOURSELF!
Have you truly loved and valued and honored yourself? In the relationship of your ego and the divine self, have you learned how to love and cherish you? Or are you looking and wanting someone else to do it? You see I find it fascinating that when pressed, people will describe the person they want. "I want someone who will appreciate me, love me, care for me, take care of me, sex me, honor me and hold me tight when I need it. I want someone who won't lie to me." And yet my question to you my friend is how long have you been lying to yourself? How long have you been lying to yourself about the pain YOU ARE REALLY IN? How long have you been lying to yourself about your choices and about your life? How long have you've been lying about who you really are? Yes, my initial question was "Are You READY For True Love? Well?
Do you appreciate you? Do you CARE for your OWN heart? If you do then why do you continue to place yourself in the same "heart-breaking" situations? I know this is tight for some of you...if you've been lying to yourself for an extended amount of time, deluding yourself, you certainly won't want to hear this! But you must in order to be totally free to love and be love completely without all of the drama!
You want someone to take care of you, but do you REALLY take care of yourself? Are you addressing your mental health issues? Are you working diligently on your emotional blocks? And are you caring for your body temple?
Now you tell me honestly, DO YOU REALLY THINK YOU'RE READY FOR TRUE LOVE?
You see you must understand one of the aspects of true love; True love is also about providing these things mentioned above, for your partner. The very real truth is you cannot provide anything to anyone that you have not or cannot provide for yourself first!
So the break-down goes something like this; You have two broken people or one that is more broken than the other, and they get into this relationship based on all of the falsehoods I presented in Chapter One. They come together with the giddy anticipation that their needs are going to be met...."yippy, I found someone, I found someone! Oh this is it! He's perfect, he's the one! She's IT!" It's almost...ALMOST, funny.
They're both standing there with a cup in their hands and signs around their necks which say "Fill me up, make me happy!" They're standing there gazing into each others' eyes with those stupid, "I'm in love" grins on their faces...but both cups are empty! Or you have one with a full cup who thinks, "I can give them some of mine." (if I just love them enough they will be all right) So that one (and this is classic) gives and gives and gives and gives and gives.....and gives...and g-i-v-e-s a...n...d...... gg....ii....vv..ees, until they have nothing TO GIVE; And you stand there wondering, why the "perfect" one is not giving back to you? Well, they started off with nothing in their cup and you get closer thinking" but I've been giving....and then you see....THEIR cup is made of paper, and it has a HOLE IN IT!
LESSON ONE (GET READY, HERE COMES A FAST BALL OF TRUTH!)
YOU CAN'T FILL OR HEAL THE HOLE IN ANOTHER'S SOUL!
For those that get that, I just saved you years of grief, agony, stress and pain. I just gave you a million dollars worth of information right there! If you only KNEW!
You see we have looked at relationships ALL WRONG! We have to have a new INTENTION when it comes to relationships. When two complete or fairly complete ego souls come together, the INTENTION is totally different than the Cinderella waiting on the prince....or the prince looking for that perfect Cinderella. Two spiritual souls see that relationship is about knowing and growing more of whom the other IS already! It's about becoming more of whom I AM; More loving, more dynamic, more in tune with the infinite, and loving my partner for motivating me to be and express who I AM already! Good GOD that's good preaching! I'll save that for Part 4.
So say the next 22 words aloud please. "So what I need to do right now is check myself. I need to first establish an relationship with and for myself."
Now I'm speaking for those NOT in a relationship. If you are in one, then your work is similar with the added task of taking your mind completely OFF of what my partner is not doing and working with re-knowing and re -creating myself! Everything you say you want in a relationship you need to make sure you are being that to yourself...if not, then YOU ARE NOT READY!
Now how does the law of attraction work in this? When you are truly ready and are are loving and honoring yourself, and you have done real spiritual work within, your aura will be that of ecstatic joy. You see it's funny how we are; You hear people whine and moan about how unhappy they are, how lonely they are; If you are sad about being alone....YOU'RE NOT READY. And what you will attract will be another sad person. Just a glob of sadness and unresolved issues. And God help you if you are a heterosexual woman and you attract a sad man? You talk about something sad, there's nothing sadder than a man that's sad.
Now when you are having a wonderful affair with SELF, you will attract someone who is having a marvelous time with their -SELF and THAT is TRUE BLISS. THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT. That is when you're ready for true love.
Part Three next week: How can you be ready for TRUE LOVE when you won't release the old?
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Sunday, July 29, 2007
Relationships As Mirrors
~ Thank you ~tHe "I" oF rIa
Relationships As Mirrors
Excerpt from:"Re-member, A Handbook for Human Evolution"
"The basis of relationships on the Gameboard is to mirror your own magnificence and re-mind you of the part of God within you. Some relationships have held difficult lessons for you. This is as it should be , for to see the God within you, your own energy must be centered as it is only visible through eyes free of judgement. There are times that you call mirrors into your lives that reflect parts of you that you do not like. Use these mirrors to openly see the reflection they offer.
As you begin to shift the reflection within the mirror you will also observe the mirror shifting as well. You have been told that you cannot change another person. We tell you that in in this fashion it is possible to change another by changing the way you react to them. Once the sight is gained into oneself and the lesson is realized, a new relationship will emerge. It is now a new person being reflected in the mirror. For some, this will mark the end of a relationship. Some relationships will make the transition and move to the next level. There is no judgement one way or another as to which is best.
The only thing we wish to point out is that in most cases you have spent a great deal of energy placing this mirror in your field. Do not remove it before you have seen the reflection as that will only cause you to seek another mirror of similar aspect to gaze upon. Here we ask you to use discernment in making these choices. We also re-mind you that it is not just the person being reflected who must change. Once a change is effected in one party, the mirror must also be willing to hold the new reflection. A mirror unwilling to cast a new reflection is forever stuck in a limited relationship. We will tell you that the mirrors that welcome the opportunity to change their reflection are the most likely to shift to the higher levels.This often requires forgiveness and understanding. This illustrates the use of unconditional love and the Unity aspect of relationships in the new energy."
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What Is Intimacy ?
We seem to know what it isn't? We say we don't see it, don't have it, or that we're working on it. Are we?
Intimacy, is not mommy and daddy wanting to "be alone"? Though it can be there.
Intimacy, is not our telling of secrets to another in private, though it can occur.
Intimacy, is not the taking of the morning in the bathroom to console and ready ourselves, though it may become just that.
Intimacy, is "completing wholeness".
If you think of it as two people, the two becoming One, is completing wholeness.
If you think of bringing another into your confidence, into your "understanding"...which if true of intimacy, means those being intimate, come into being of the same mind...one mind..to say, Spirit.
How do we learn intimacy? We begin by coming into one mind, one spirit, of OURSELVES. You; Me, we have to begin by being intimate with ourselves FIRST.
We know ourselves, coming to understand ourselves, and realizing, we are already completed, already whole, already well...in our private moments, as we look in the mirrors, look deep within, we are happy with what we are becoming...we are becoming ourselves, us...complete...and in doing this...anyone or anything else we become intimate with, is blessed, healed, and shown how to "be ourselves".
"Intimacy", bringing wholeness out of that which was not...
D~
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Intimacy, is not mommy and daddy wanting to "be alone"? Though it can be there.
Intimacy, is not our telling of secrets to another in private, though it can occur.
Intimacy, is not the taking of the morning in the bathroom to console and ready ourselves, though it may become just that.
Intimacy, is "completing wholeness".
If you think of it as two people, the two becoming One, is completing wholeness.
If you think of bringing another into your confidence, into your "understanding"...which if true of intimacy, means those being intimate, come into being of the same mind...one mind..to say, Spirit.
How do we learn intimacy? We begin by coming into one mind, one spirit, of OURSELVES. You; Me, we have to begin by being intimate with ourselves FIRST.
We know ourselves, coming to understand ourselves, and realizing, we are already completed, already whole, already well...in our private moments, as we look in the mirrors, look deep within, we are happy with what we are becoming...we are becoming ourselves, us...complete...and in doing this...anyone or anything else we become intimate with, is blessed, healed, and shown how to "be ourselves".
"Intimacy", bringing wholeness out of that which was not...
D~
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Monday, July 9, 2007
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Monday, June 4, 2007
Never Forget To...
From: uniL♥Visions
♥thanks, Love~
~ Unity ~
Why I never forget to say I love you" . . .
IF I KNEW
~Author unknown~
If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more
If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.
There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can do?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,
That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear
Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.
"There are only two ways to live your life: One is as though nothing is a miracle, The other is as though everything is a miracle. I believe in the latter."
-- Albert Einstein
Sent with Love, Unity
Please Don't hesitate to share this with friends
"When there's love in your heart,
you always have something left to give"
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Romance vs Love
From: Tony
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Ulogy
CELTIC PRINCESS
gentlesoul4peace
June 4, 2007
The Real Thing
Love Should Feel Good
Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself. We see this at play in our love lives and in the love lives of our friends, our family, and even fictional characters. The conceptualizing, depiction, and pursuit of true love are multimillion-dollar industries in the modern world. However, very little of what is offered actually leads us to an authentic experience of love. Moreover, as we grasp for what we think we want and fail to find it, we may suffer and bring suffering to others. When this is the case, when we suffer more than we feel healed, we can be fairly certain that what we have found is not love but something else.
When we feel anxious, excited, nervous, and thrilled, we are probably experiencing romance, not love. Romance can be a lot of fun as long as we do not try to make too much of it. If we try to make more of it than it is, the romance then becomes painful. Romance may lead to love, but it may also fade without blossoming into anything more than a flirtation. If we cling to it and try to make it more, we might find ourselves pining for a fantasy, or worse, stuck in a relationship that was never meant to last.
Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. True love activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.
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Friday, May 25, 2007
You Experience What You Allow
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From: self :: fullfilling :: prophecy
There are no accidents or mistakes in the Universe. Every person, situation and experience that you have is one that you have allowed in your reality. Each lesson that you work through is one that your soul has allowed you to learn for your spiritual growth. The most powerful moment that you can experience at any point on your path is to realize that you allow your reality to unfold in the most perfect way possible, at every moment. You allow the easy and the difficult, love and fear, joy and sadness to be what you experience. All of these energies are available to you and what you live with is what you allow.
No other person has power over your reality other than what you allow them to have. No other person is able to add to or take away from your power unless you allow them to. Even your soul lessons occur because you allow them to happen. The energy of allowing is a powerful tool that only you can use and the Universe responds to what you allow. The thoughts, feelings and beliefs that you apply to what you allow determines what will unfold in your life.
When you have no fear you remove your connection to anything that carries that energy and you allow only the highest vibrations in your reality. Each step towards fear, towards believing that you are not deserving, not powerful, not divine, allows these energies into your reality and every aspect of your life will reflect this. When you allow your Highest Good to be manifested at all times, then you are telling the Universe that this is what you will allow and it will respond accordingly.
The energy of allowing is the key to understanding how the Universe works with you to create your reality. If you feel powerless in your life remember that you allow the energies that are present to be there. Shifting them is merely a change in focus on what you will allow. Change cannot happen until you change what you allow to unfold in your world. When you shift your energy you also shift the energy of everything around you and allow your reality to become one that brings you joy. This week, consider what you are allowing in your reality. What energies are you using to create that and are you ready to shift them into something that will bring you greater joy, peace and love?
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Monday, May 21, 2007
As Good As Your Word
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From: gentlesoul4peace
As Good As Your Word
Keeping Promises
Ever since human beings could speak to one another, they have been making promises and keeping them or not keeping them.
Those who keep their promises are regarded as people of integrity, while those who don’t keep their promises are regarded as people who at best can’t be taken seriously and at worst can’t be trusted.
Sometimes we forget how powerful our words are, and we use them haphazardly or unconsciously, creating expectations that are never fulfilled, leaving disappointment and distrust in our wake.
On an even deeper level, there are promises we may have made to ourselves that we don’t remember because they have slipped into our unconscious.
An early heartache may have been followed by a promise never to trust love again. Without realizing it, we may be fulfilling that promise and wondering why our love life looks so grim.
At an even deeper level, many people who recall past lives become aware that they made a promise lifetimes ago that they are still keeping.
For example, a vow of poverty taken in a lifetime as a monk may be holding someone back from fulfilling his earning potential now.
Upon realizing that we have made a promise we no longer wish to be beholden to, we can perform a ritual of requesting release from that bond.
In doing so, we clear ourselves of outmoded connections and patterns, returning ourselves to a clean slate.
Then we can resolve to remember that our word is sacred and to be very conscious of any promises we make to ourselves or to others.
We may ask to be released from any promises made to ourselves or others in our present, past, or future lives, consciously or unconsciously, that are holding us back from fulfilling our greatest good.
We may ask that love, light, and healing be sent to any souls who have suffered from our inability to be true to our word, including ourselves.
We can ask for the wisdom to do our best and from this point forward to be true to our word, promising only what we truly intend to deliver.
The resulting clear conscience and liberated energy will illustrate this truth: We are only as good as our word.
DAILY OM
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Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Sex & Enlightenment
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Awesome post... OM shanti OM
_.~*SVAHA*~._
Maithuna
The following excerpt is from the book "Living Life In Love" by Peter Rengel
If you are here on the planet to become more loving and to evolve spiritually, how does sexuality fit into your picture? In most spiritual traditions, sex has long been held as an obstacle to Enlightenment. It has been seen as something to overcome, to transcend, or to go beyond. Vows of celibacy have often been praised as seekers try to conquer the "burdens" and "illusions" of earthly desires. The underlying and usually unquestioned assumption is that sexual denial eventually leads to Enlightenment.
But isn't Enlightenment the realization that all the Universe is contained within the infinite depths of your Heart? And doesn't all the Universe include your sexuality and your lust? Are you supposed to somehow cast out an integral part of your own humanity in order to become a fully-realized person? Celibacy may occur in a natural, organic way as you embrace all aspects of your sexuality and go through to the other side. But to try to force it upon yourself is destructive. It may be a by-product of your evolution, but it is not the goal.
Celibacy
The spiritual vow
To give up sex
Creates repression
Instead of celibacy.
Lust no longer smolders
When the hot name of
Your sexual desires
Easily and effortless!,
Becomes a cool breeze
When sex is nonflammable
Celibacy will surprise you.
Sexuality can be a vehicle into spirituality rather than an obstacle to it. One way to express your desire to be reunited with God is by merging with another person through sharing your sexuality. The more deeply you feel the longing to return Home, the more deeply you may want to free your sexual nature. And that very expression, when realized as such, adds fuel to the most significant fire there is: the burning up of the human ego and the subsequent dissolving of the illusion of separation. The gift of your sexuality is that it is a profound modality for the ecstatic affirmation of human Love. Why not include sex and God in the same breath? Why would you ever want to see them as opposing forces rather than as partners?
Sex and God
Transcending your sexuality
To become more spiritual is
An Enlightenment illusion.
When God touches your Heart,
Your sexuality is awakened.
Your body lights up and Your life lightens up.
Sexual expression can be frightening. It is a movement from everyday limited levels of consciousness into an expansion of your energetic aliveness. Two activities that challenge the ego structure down to its very core are meditation and sexual/emotional expression. Both require letting go of the negative mind's usual control over you. The mind/ego has power over you whenever you make negative thoughts real by focusing on them. In meditation and in sex, in order to become the master of your mind, you must escape from its traps that keep you absorbed at the level of thought. You achieve ultimate freedom if you can access a place inside yourself that lives only in the present tense, not trying to go anywhere or to accomplish anything. In this receptive state, Love happens. Fulfillment happens. Happiness happens. Union happens.
The mind wants you to be at its every beck and call. It becomes very threatened if you surrender into the flow of sexual energy. Therefore, it tells you that sex is wrong, or a waste of time, or an addiction, or not spiritual enough. Or it starts a fight with your lover when the possibility for a new level of sexual intimacy is available. Listening to your mind's negativity has you miss the bliss that you could be experiencing if you were to truly let go into the formless. Dive in underneath the superficial motivations of your sexual desires to the deepest stirrings within your Soul. Approach lovemaking with an attitude of reverence and awe because untainted sex is the sharing of divine nectar. With the safety created by this underlying context, all avenues of pure sexual expression open to mutual exploration.
The Lovers' Dance
Sexual seduction can be
A lovely dance between
Tension and relaxation.
If you frolic together
In a free form flow,
You start waltzing
With your divinity.
What, then, is "spiritual sex"? Take a moment to envision your ideal of two people engaged in "spiritual sex." Do you picture candles and incense burning? Do the lovers bow to each other, kiss one another's feet, and then sit in the yab-yum position (cross-legged, one on the lap of the other)? Do they see the whole Universe in each other's eyes? Do they gently breathe together, barely moving? Have they transcended the trappings of hot, animal lust? Are they beyond the need for genital orgasms?
Whether your pictures are similar to these or not, notice if you do have any ideas of what spiritual sex is supposed to be. What experiences are spiritual lovers supposed to have? Just notice what your beliefs are. Then, see if the following questions challenge those ideas.
What if spiritual sex has little to do with how spiritual it appears to be?
What if spiritual sex is much more encompassing than you have envisioned?
What if holding on to your pictures of spiritual sex limits the possibilities of other profound experiences?
What if spiritual sex has more to do with the intention of the lovers than with the activity itself?
Spiritual sex arises out of both partners' desire for union through uninhibited self expression. What if you are here on earth not to transcend your humanness, but to revere yourself exactly as you are right now? You are a fascinating combination of a heavenly angel/god/goddess and an earthly animal/beast. As you let go into the formless with the intention to become one with your lover, what can emerge is a dance back and forth between your god/goddess and your animal urges. As your animal nature releases into an uninhibited expression of lust, perhaps the absolutely perfect spiritual union becomes available to you in that moment. Then, in another moment, when you are softly touching and looking into one another's eyes, you have included your human, animal lust rather than trying to bypass it. As you surrender to your lover's feet in devotion, you can worship each other's divinity and each other's humanness. In fact, as you let out your lust, you create the foundation upon which to build your temple.
Spiritual Sex
When your sexual roots
Explode into the Earth,
Your spiritual wings can
Fly freely into Heaven.
Are lust and Love enemies waging war against one another or friends complementing each other? When sexual energy begins to flow, you can be overpowered by your genitals if you let them sweep you into actions that you regret later. You need not do anything about your sexual arousal unless your Heart is in agreement with your genitals.
Lust
Lust disguises itself as Love
Only when you have failed
To know Lust intimately.
Enjoy the burst of Life
From Lust's explosion,
But do not be fooled
By a fickle turn-on.
Lust needs no Heart,
But Love is enhanced
When it includes Lust.
Sexuality can be a doorway into bliss instead of a stumbling block to be overcome. Embracing both soft, cool sex, and hot, lusty sex creates more colors with which to paint a richer self-portrait. "Spiritual sex" includes the entire spectrum from Life's rainbow, such as:
Diving into each other's eyes.
Tenderly touching each other's face.
Experiencing the pain of having any walls between you.
Holding each other Heart to Heart and letting your energy flow.
Being of total service to your lover.
Rutting like wild animals.
Crying as new doors open to deeper levels of intimacy.
Following your sexuality's own expression without preconceived pictures.
Allowing yourself to be created into whoever your partner wants you to be.
More magic happens if you allow yourself to be seen as an archetype. You can be the most beautiful or handsome person in the history of humankind, or the sexiest, lustiest human on the planet, or a Greek God or Goddess, or more in Love than any couple has ever been. As you surrender into the unknown, new possibilities arise from the innocence of your creativity. The reward for your risks is a surprise that delights you and relights your Love.
If you let go of your thoughts about how sex should be, new experiences become available to you. Pure sexuality arises out of a more fundamental core within your Being than your mind. You can enhance your arousal by using energy from thoughts. For instance, you may turn yourself on with phrases like "I love you!" or "This is really hot!" or "This feels great!" or "Jesus!" With an enticing mental image, "Shazam!" - an orgasm is triggered. As you further explore the dance of sexuality, you may be blessed with orgasms that arise from a place beyond thoughts. There, you touch the source of all Life.
Ultimate Orgasms
Profound orgasms unfold when
"You" dissolve into Love's void.
If you allow a thought-free energy
To pulsate throughout your Being,
You are swept into a Reality where
Time is not and Perfect Silence is.
Do you know the tantric secret about orgasms? While releasing into orgasm, you can perform "white magic" by visualizing ways you would like Life to be, You can picture anything, such as being deeply in Love forever; or money flowing abundantly in your life; or the healing of a friend or relative; or finding relief for the hungry or homeless; or the whole world living in harmony.
What you envision at the moment of orgasm plants a seed within that level of consciousness. Because you are so open, your picture filters down through all the other layers of consciousness. It eventually shows up in your outer world, if you do not let doubt get in your way. You can actually change your everyday Reality through this "white magic."
With this additional incentive, what are some ways that can you take yourself deeper into Love and into sex?
By embracing all sexual acts.
By integrating the lust-filled, sex-hungry animal and the soft, gentle angel.
By being sexually creative and not settling for a sexual routine.
By being sexually curious and discovering what you want to explore next.
By being willing to ask for 100% of what you want without expectations.
By allowing the energy to freely dance between talking, emotional vulnerability, soft, cool sex, and hot, lusty sex.
What are the actual experiences that are available out of diving into intimacy? They are boundless and infinite. Donna and I feel more in Love than any other couple in the history of humankind; and we want every other couple to have this same feeling. We are head over heels in Love with each other about 99% of the time (or is it "heels over head in Love"?). After ten years of intimate sexuality, we feel like we are at the very beginning of exploring infinite realms of relating. We have psychic experiences which indicate that we are attuned to one another in the natural way that all of us are meant to be. We are often moved to tears of gratitude for being in each other's lives and touching each other's Soul. We know that at least one other person on this planet accepts us completely, loves every deep, dark corner of us, and lets us feel absolutely safe. We sometimes see each other as all men or all women, so that we can fall in Love with all human beings through each other. Through our respect for each other, we feel a sense of reverence and awe for all human beings as gods and goddesses. We have the opportunity to worship another god/goddess disguised as a human being from a place of true surrender and devotion.
As you fully embrace your animal nature, a profound integration of Heaven and Earth emerges. As you celebrate the gift of your sexuality's unique expression, you discover that you do not have to wait until you die in order to be liberated. As your Hearts and your sex soar together, you free yourself to celebrate in Heavenly bliss while still in your body.
Freedom
Death is freedom
From time and space.
Sex is freedom
From time.
Love is Freedom.
With Love, there is nothing to free yourself from. There is no place to try to get to nor anything to accomplish. Love includes and embraces the entire Universe. Nothing is an obstacle to overcome because you have already arrived.
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Sunday, May 13, 2007
From Illusion to Full Consciousness
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To wake up from The Illusion to full consciousness By Ben-Arion
Go behind the veil of the ego and get to know your true self. That which loves in the space of the eternal now, through you and around you. The spark of love and life itself in a conscious experience.
We are all disguised masters with unique gifts. The cassier in the supermarket, the waitress at the restaurant or the bus driver. Everyone, though, is differently aware of their Spiritual nature and that they are creators of their own universes. We are not separeted, we are one consciousness which experiences itself through many experiences and many levels of consciousness. Your surroundings are like a multidimensional mirror where you can get to know other parts of yourself. But at the same time you experience yourself as the individual and unique being that you are right now. With different perspectives on ourselves a richer experience of whom we are is born. So embrace your opposite, it is a part of yourself. We are living in the time of changes, where we grow into our new roles on planet earth. A role with big responsibility but also in joy, since we are many who are consious now, who together integrates a higher frequency and a new way of living. Changes are happening in the physical body on quantum level. New energies are rebuilding your cells and they fill you with light and less materia. Emotionally and physically things can seem like a rollercoaster, and this depends on that the body is now adjusting to a higher amperage or frequency of light.
The periods of integrations goes in cycles. You can have periods when you feel completely exhausted and others when you feel whole and complete. The energies are balanced and are constantly integrated. The human body cannot receive too much light at the same time. It would lead to overload and physical death. Therefor it comes in intervals and in the pace that we are ready for. When we rise in frequency everything will become more harmonical. It can be compared to an instrument that is being tuned in to an orchestra: the more tunes we bring to it, the more beautiful and concious we become. It has been shown in tests that water that has been exposed to negativelly projected thoughtforms shaped non-symetric and chaotic chrystal patterns, while positive thoughts shaped beautiful and symetrical patterns. This shows very well how thoughts can effect everything that we focus on. The inner state is reflected, and like your reality that is why it is important that you find inner peace and anchor it in Mother Earth. This, in its turn, creates a peaceful awakening to you and your fellow creatures. What you focus on, you get more of. This is a time when we must get to know what we want with our lives - and to leave heavy burdens which doesn´t surve any purpose on our journey inwards. Your whole life´s beliefs and values can actually have surved their purpose: to show you your way. You are ready to expand beyond wrong and right. To feel the possibilities and to have faith in the future. Accept as far as you are able, that you are an eternal soul with the ability to love through everything. It is your mission.
A PROCESS WHICH IS LOVE
It is a process to wake up to full awareness, old patterns that needs to be looked at/overseen/, addictions of different kinds, foodhabits, how we talk to other humans/people and what we believe about ourselves gets a lot of attention now when we need to change clothing. The relation you have to yourself is the first and most important step to freedom. It is when you are centered in yourself that you really can give to others without expectations. The awards for your work comes to you in abundance without you having to think about it. Programmed, emotional patterns that are deeply rooted inside you has to be ackknowledged and forgiven. You just have to have the insight in your heart that you will go beyond the limitations of your thought, that you want to find peace in who you are, that is spiritual development. To love yourself and your environment makes your cells sing in a higher frequency and you are now in tune to the miracles of the higher worlds. This is your home. To be in your center means to consciously tune in your whole body, without thoughts, to feel the silence in your body and to let yourself rest in the knowledge that you are eternal and that all is good except how stormy it is on the outside. Close your eyes and fell safe. If it is hard for you to find this center, 20 minutes daily mediation is recommended, when you focus on breathing in and out at the same time as you focus on your heart. You can call this to "breath with your heart", it opens your gate to harmony, bliss and peace.
Your body is your temple and a gift. When you take in more light in your physical body you will become more sensitive to certain types of food and to what you put in your mouth. Your body will protest and lovingly tell you what you can eat, if you listen to it gently. Some people might become vegetarians and get more conscious about what they eat. Many things in the stores includes artificial and manipulated ingridients which isn´t good for the body. Physical training can also help keep the energies in balance. If you are able, then do this. Your whole body is like a big building project and it happens things on many levels. It can sometimes feel uncomfortable, but it is nothing to be afraid of. If all too much is happening you can ask for the process to slow down a bit and for guidance. You just have to talk to your guides, who are always by your side. You might not think that they here you, but I promise you that they do all they can, in many ways - don´t try to figure out how -accept that the voice of your heart has been heard and go on as well as you can.
The world lives in us and we can choose which world we want to create. Everything is created through the heart. When we rise our requency through meditation and focus to our inner light, channels are opening up in the body that gives access to knowledge and clearsight. Your body becomes lighter and more receptible to the higher light, the higher frequencies activates DNA inside our body that totally changes our being and perspective. We are on our way to who we really are, behind layers of denial and fear is the core, our monad.
It is very important now to learn to monitor our thoughts and feelings, to go outside the Threedimensional drama, like you put the a cable in the computer with higher ampere, we must tune our heart to the higher energies of conciousness. This is important since we easily can be drawn down in the lower vibrations if we loose our center and there we are of no use. We are here to guide and to show the way to others in this transformation into the fifth dimension, a higher frequency of life. Now to go in our truth and to speak our truth beyond the drama and the collective illusion that so many lives in and has gotten stuck in. When you accelerate in your shift and the perspective how you look at the world, you are at the same time helping many other humans, you become like a lightship on open waters that sends out a signal to others who are ready to hear and to integrate a morde conscious presense. It can be compared to rings on the water, they grow bigger and bigger from the center.
Many confused and slumbering souls are ready to open their heart and you will be there for them. It is a challenge to follow your joy in every now, but if you follow your own knowledge and the feeling that harmonicly vibrate in your heart. A song that never doubts and only loves. This is the door to your multidimensional being, in the heart exists a doorway to pure being. In the now you are always reborn. This is where you find power and beauty in life. As conscious spiritual guide and messange to many humans you only have to follow your heart. Not be afraid of what you are feeling right now, love what you are afraid of and you will become free from it. You melt the lower vibrations like is on a hot summer day in your heart. With training this will be your natural state. Many people will turn to you, they can see who you are. Rembember that you are not here to shuffle over what you know to someone else and think that it will make them grow. The souls who are ready will come to you with questions and are open to your guidance. The more love you open up to, the more you will meet of what we call challanges. People will see that something is different with you, what is the secret? They will feel uncomfortable around you because they don´t know what to feel.
Integrity is not always to be kind and a loving person who talks about light all the time. It is to embrace every part of oneself and to live life to the fullest in every now. Many people live another humans truth and not their own and you are here to show that The Truth is inside of them and that is where we all can meet, here outer happenings, despite level or attitude - is embraced by love, unconditional love. Your precense is needed and you should not be afraid to love your way through the problems. You can be a master just like Jesus. Know yourself, he said, and if you know yourself then you know everyone else like yourself. Then you can walk in the middle of the storm without becoming effected. The road to full consciousness is to go your own way and also to enbrace the path of your fellow human beings. Everyone is not ready to take a hugh leap in consciousness, and this is fully respected and loved.
Meeting with yourself… By Ben-Arion
Will I become enlightened in some years from now or maybe in my next life? Will the extraterrestrials land in the year 2012? Are thoose important questions to ask ourselves? It might not be that important with the words when, where and how? All this expectation about the future, projected thoughts that promises a better way of life. We read spiritual books and meditate, perhaps we eat better food, but are we doing it because we feel stressed on a spiritual level or is it to achive a specific goal or to please someone else. If we can let go of our expectations about how things will look and be, then everything can fall into place much easier. This eternal waiting for enlightenment, trying to be some spriritual person who is perfect and has all the answers, it´s time to let go of that attitude and to receive all that is now, where everything already is in harmony. To be in the world and to se all that happens beyond the borders of the physical materia, to see unity in everything.
Conflicts and confusion that arise in the world is because of a lack of self-knowledge. All humans achive higher knowledge when they are ready, and you can be an example for higher knowledge by devoting yourself to the power that exists inside all living creatures, whom the human calls God. You gladly want to jump in and help and explain for thoose you love that they themselves create their experiences on their own, that the solution is forgiveness.
To see situations in sympathy and too love them for what they are going through are important, because everyone will come to insight, after stumbelling as blind people in darkness, searching for a light that has always existed inside of them. Everyone meets who they need to get answers to their questions, maybe not everything, but exaxtly what you need to go on. We don´t need answers to all questions, that is a first lesson, the answers come when we least expect it. You could say that we open up to higher "thoughts" and you don´t have to be afraid or expect to "know" everything that happens. Have faith in the process that is you and that is All that is. Instead, go beyond the questions and recieve what is given to you. Everything you see in your life are Symbols that help you to grow, they are reflections, you can learn from them if you see yourself in them. That you are one and the same, WE ARE ONE! When you forgive your hindrances and trials, they let go of you. You practice love on planet earth in the physical, that is remarkable. It is no easy task, but you know how to do it.
That our cosmical friends are starting to show themselves more and more to thoose who are ready for them is a process. You are in that process and everything has its meaning. You can notice ways to compare and analyze your experiences, but it is in order, it is a part of the human "mind" we do it when we want answers. Pray from your heart, a quiet inquire, that the answers will come to you in the pace that you are ready for. Ask and you will be given, knock and the door will open. You already know everything, but the "fog" lightens with love, not to frighten you. You are about to wake up from the dream you have dreamt so long, from the one you think you are to the one you really are.
When fear arises in you, see it and love it, to become free from illusion we must love and forgive, not judge, that keeps us in duality and separation. To try to fix something outside only gives a temporary solution. When you really love every part of yourself no resistance can arise inside. Then conflicts can be understood like the real illusions they are. Fear and separation arises then you have something to defend and something to compare to. To defend yourself, has its ground in the belief that what is outside oneself is someone else, but which is really a mirror of what you have inside.
The illusion of dreams
All meetings help you become free from the illusion. Everything you see around you is like a dream, you even have at night. Maybe you even catch yourself dreaming, it becomes a counsious dream. If you are appearant in the dream it can´t affect you as much as if you weren´t. When you dream you know that you aren´t actually there, but that you are elsewhere, you are lying at home in your bed. It´s the same now, you aren´t really here, it´s a projection of the mind. You are already with God, but you have a physical sense of being here. Dreams aren´t real, not more real than you make them. Enlightenment is not about changing the dream but wakening from the dream, because in the illusion there is no truth. Rembember that the truth is presented on many levels of conciousness, the truth is more far-reaching and more obvious, it can´t no longer be communicated in words, because the truth is and exists with everyone. There is no way there, because you are already there. That´s the illusion. To wake up from the dream happens through forgiveness. When you forgive experiences you are no longer bound to the illusion, because you now it isn´t for real/the truth
Humans dream together a collective dream here on earth, there are thoose who stroll around unconsious here like robots and acting out their feelings without trying to find out what caused them. You can shake them to awareness with your presens, but they will calmly and still glide back to the same level again after a while. Everyone who is ready to wake up will see the truth and hear it. Everything is happening to you right now because it is a part of you and you can´t escape meeting yourself, more and more will be given to you, it´s nothing you decide on your own, so don´t stress yourself up to get results. Let it come like the wind on a summer night, totally natural, in joy and wonder. You meet them by taking care of yourself, they don´t expect anything from you or that you shall achive something, thoose whom you call "outsiders" . Extraterrestrials are most highly a part of yourself, they love you and you only have to have faith in them and to open your heart for their love, it´s not more advanced than that. They want to get to know YOU, who you are, and always has been, they help you on the way to waking up from the dream. All communication is not physical, it doesn´t have to be, if it happens it is meant that way, it is decided. They don´t choose you instead it has always been decided that so will happen NOW, you are not choosen, you are on a booked meeting. You can listen to medial persons and you can listen to yourself. Dare to listen to yourself. The time was always ready for you, but now you are starting to "remember". That´s exactly how it´s supposed to be. There are many levels of insight, you can never find answers in the illusion you see around you, in forms of thoughts and physical things, the Truth has always existed, beyond the things in your heart. To take time to reflect and to forgive that what you meet outside yourself can heal the unconcious inside of you. We can only remind eachother about what we already know is true in our hearts. The truth always resonates inside you when you hear it, it never forces itself on anyone or anything. You are welcome to write back with a reflection in the comment section, if you have one, we are all Reflections by the one, everything that is. WE ARE ONE!
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Thursday, May 3, 2007
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Wednesday, May 2, 2007
Spice It Up
Spice it up By: Maureen02.05.07 05:31:31
Like every other dating site, we have a fair amount of married men and women who are seeking passion and attention outside their relationship. They come here for a varied number of reasons, but one is boredom with the same old same old plain vanilla sex that doesn't spark the flame any more.
There is really nothing wrong with you if you ever felt like that. It is not that you do not love the same person any more but it is just that repetitions themselves without even the slightest change of routine, same place, same atmosphere, same time, same style, same finishing, just makes things too predictable and when things become too predictable, our brain, which is probably our most powerful sexual organ, just is not stimulated as much as it used to. Simple changes will make a whole lot of difference in how we think and in turn, how we may get stimulated from the small things in life.
If this is you, there are a few things you can try to make things at home better. (I know this is bad for business, but I'd rather see you happy.)
Have fun outside the bedroom. When was the last time you really had some fun outside the bedroom? Have a dance, play some cards, have a picnic or just do what ever that gets the laughs going just between the two of you. Like it was in the "old days"
Think of love-making as a priority. Set a date in your diary and plan for the event. It all begins with how you approach the event and your attitude matters.
Romance matters. Hold hands. Buy a rose, cook a special meal, wear something sexy, light candles, put on "sex" music and don't forget to perfume the sheets.
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Like every other dating site, we have a fair amount of married men and women who are seeking passion and attention outside their relationship. They come here for a varied number of reasons, but one is boredom with the same old same old plain vanilla sex that doesn't spark the flame any more.
There is really nothing wrong with you if you ever felt like that. It is not that you do not love the same person any more but it is just that repetitions themselves without even the slightest change of routine, same place, same atmosphere, same time, same style, same finishing, just makes things too predictable and when things become too predictable, our brain, which is probably our most powerful sexual organ, just is not stimulated as much as it used to. Simple changes will make a whole lot of difference in how we think and in turn, how we may get stimulated from the small things in life.
If this is you, there are a few things you can try to make things at home better. (I know this is bad for business, but I'd rather see you happy.)
Have fun outside the bedroom. When was the last time you really had some fun outside the bedroom? Have a dance, play some cards, have a picnic or just do what ever that gets the laughs going just between the two of you. Like it was in the "old days"
Think of love-making as a priority. Set a date in your diary and plan for the event. It all begins with how you approach the event and your attitude matters.
Romance matters. Hold hands. Buy a rose, cook a special meal, wear something sexy, light candles, put on "sex" music and don't forget to perfume the sheets.
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The Answer To Every Question
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Love is the answer to every question.
Why are we here? Love.
Where do we come from? Love.
How do we create world peace? Love.
It may sound overly simplistic to the modern
human being, since we are want to analyze and
look for complex answers to questions. We don’t
believe that life is simple and the answers to its
problems can also be simple: love.
In truth, what are anger, sadness, pain but the soul’s
desire for love?
If we learn to love ourselves without reservation, and to love the world in the same way, the answer is simple. It is impossible, when filled with love, to be aggressive or hate-filled or violent.
When we know that we are beautiful and wonderful, we see the world through those eyes. We see the beauty and wonder in all things around us.
We don’t need to look outside ourselves for the love we seek. It has been there all along. It is the voice of our self-esteem. It is our anger saying, ‘hey this is not right for me. I don’t want this in my life any longer.’
Self-love is saying no to abuse and betrayal. It is wanting the very best for yourself and accepting only that in your life. It is healing the wounds that you have carried all your life.
Self-love is walking away from those who mistreat you, knowing that you deserve better. It is taking the risk to pursue the career that will bring you joy. It is listening to your own inner voice – the one that will always guide you to what is best. It is trusting in yourself completely.
Self-love is following that little voice within that says, ‘ooh I want to do that today.’ Sometimes it means ignoring the voice of 'shoulds' and 'have-tos.' It is believing that, when you seek what you desire and fill yourself with joy, you will also be spreading that joy to those around you.
Love will fill you up so you will know there is nothing missing in your life.
Love will lead you to every answer.
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Saturday, April 28, 2007
Thoughts Are Like Cosmic Glue
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From: Eternal Energy
There are around 6 billion people on this planet and every one of those people has thoughts. Scientists believe that the average person has up to 50,000 thoughts per day so when you multiply how many thoughts each individual has each day by the population of the planet, that is a lot of thoughts. It is all those trillions and trillions of thoughts that produce a kind of energy which shapes the world we see and live in. All these thoughts are like cosmic glue holding our reality in place.
Over the course of time the world changes. You will notice over the course of a decade that the world is slightly different in it’s appearance and the attitude of the people inhabiting the world in each new decade is also different. After a hundred years you will notice a much greater change in the world’s appearance and the attitude of its people. The reason the world changes is because our collective thinking changes.
What I am referring to is how we each affect each other whether we are aware of it or not. One of the most destructive devices in the modern world that causes so much death, destruction, fear and chaos is the TV. Yes the television is perhaps the most dangerous piece of equipment ever built. Many or should I say most people in the developed world watch TV everyday and give very little thought to what it is they are doing to themselves. They turn on the box and watch the news programs and listen to all the statistics on how many women die of breast cancer and how many men will develop heart disease and how terrorism is becoming a huge problem throughout many countries in the world and they believe what they hear. That is where the problem lies, they believe what they hear.
The moment you believe something your subconscious mind begins to make it happen. This is the nature of thought, thinking is this kind of cosmic glue that gets stuck all through your thoughts and begins to manifest in your life. If you don’t believe something is true or possible than it isn’t. It is only belief that turns a thought into reality. So if you and everyone else never heard about or thought about breast cancer it would never become a problem for you. What has happened is, someone has been thinking about a problem arising in their body like cancer, than that thought manifests as a disease within the body and then other people hear about it and then the media broadcasts it and then the entire world knows about it and then it becomes a statistic we believe we may succumb to.
This worldwide growing terrorism threat seems to have gotten out of hand and we the people of this planet are responsible for this through our collective thinking. No, nobody wants there to be any terrorism but we thought about the possibility of global terrorism for so long that through our thinking and our worry, we made it happen and now it’s happening so much more because we keep thinking about it, the media pushes it, the media is actually invoking it. While we keep terrorism, cancer and all those other horrible demons in our minds we will only serve to nourish them and give them life with our daily thoughts.
The moment we can clear our minds and focus only on what we want, the things that bring joy and happiness is when the world will make another change in a new positive direction and away from the fearful world we continue to build from our thoughts of today. Your thoughts, my thoughts, everyone’s collective thoughts literally create everything in the universe.
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Friday, April 27, 2007
Long Distance Relationships - How to Make it Work
Long Distance Relationships - How to Make it Work
by: Rachelle Arlin Credo
Long distance relationships are dreadful. I know this because I'm currently living one. You watch other couples walk down the street hand-in-hand, kissing, etc., everyday and you can't do anything but envy them. So how can a long distance relationship work? How can you keep on loving someone if you can't even see them?
The answer is...it depends on how much you want it to work. True love can overcome any odds thrown in its path if you want it bad enough. So the question is, how do you do it? Well, I do not think that anyone knows exactly how to make it work, but I can certainly provide some points on making it work.
1. COMMUNICATION is the key.
In every relationship, whether near or far, if communication is taken for granted, it can cause the relationship to quiver until it eventually dies a natural death. That's why in any given circumstance, communication has to be given utmost importance. There are so many available media to ensure that the communication stays open. From snail mails and phone calls to chat systems and e-mails or e-cards. These media can be effective means to convey your hearts desires to your loved ones. Let them know about what you've been doing and thinking because in that way they will feel like they are there with you. This will also help you feel close even though you are miles apart.
2. Send off CARE PACKAGES.
It can be anything -- a little gift of flowers; a collection of the letters he has sent you designed artistically into a scrapbook; or your sweetheart's favorite jewelry -- it's really only limited to your imagination. Engaging yourself in this way is beneficial for both of you. You get to concentrate on gathering these items and putting them together, thus keeping your mind off not being together to a certain extent. Your loved one will see how much effort you put into it and how much you care. Even if it is nothing more than a card,it shows they mean enough to you that you can take the time to let them know. It never takes much money to show a little love with a small gift. Trust me, it can melt a heart!
3. Keep yourself BUSY.
You couldn't just sit there and wait 'til he comes back to you. What if he doesn't come back at all and all you did was sit and get your tummy flabby, won't that make you just miserable? You won't just be stunting your growth as an individual in the process but you'd also be developing emotional insecurities. In order to avoid that, you have to focus yourself on other things while waiting. Try to identify your passions. Get in touch with your creative nature. If you are a homebody, you can read tons of books which can help you grow intellectually and emotionally or you can choose to lounge before your computer and surf for hours to learn invaluable things over the internet. It's an endless "ways-to-make-yourself-busy" list and it is up to you to decide whichever you're interested to get involved in. But remember, being "busy" is not an excuse to forget your "special days" and worse yet, your loved one. You're doing it not just to occupy yourself but also to allow yourself to grow even with your lover's absence.
4. HONESTY is the best policy.
The path to true intimacy and connection especially in a long distance relationship is through "total honesty" to each other in the fullest sense of the words. By being authentic and telling your full truth to your loved one about your thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, issues, boundaries, etc., you are gradually building up a zone of confidence and comfort for both of you. This is very essential if you want your relationship to really last. Seeking to avoid conflict and maintain harmony by censoring yourself can work for a while but it won't take much time until your suppressed truth comes out in other ways, such as withdrawal, resentment, "acting out," etc. I know, sometimes, telling your whole truth can be difficult and even scary, but it will result in the kind of relationship that you really want-- a relationship where all the cards are laid in the table.
5. The value of TRUST
Trust is a very fundamental aspect in any relationship. That is because having trust in a relationship takes away doubt. When you trust someone you never have to question their motivation about anything and with mutual trust that relationship is solid. You must learn to be true to the relationship and must never give way to insecurities, strange feelings, suspicions and quick impulses because these will only bring your relationship down. Don't push away negative comments, or advice. Just trust in yourself and your partner. If you two are true to each other and have no hidden motives then you'll be alright. Remember "Love never fails."
6. COMMITMENT is a habit not an achievement
In every relationship, it is a must to be able to learn how to commit and be committed. For most long distance relationships, the very reason why they fail is because both parties couldn't go on with the commitment and they feel too weak to withstand the tribulations of time.If you have committed yourselves to each other without shilly-shallying, then you have a good promise ahead of you.Your comitment to each other will keep the passion alive and the fires burning thus sustaining the growth of the relationship.
7. PATIENCE is a virtue.
Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.
8. WEBCAM
This is applicable only for those who have the comfort of having their own personal computers at home.But for those who don't, there are computers-for-rent in cafe's with webcams already attached to the computer system. Having a webcam is actually very fun and exciting. Even if you aren't together but looking at each other's face in the broad screen makes you feel like you're just so close, so near to your loved one. My boyfriend and I use Yahoo messenger to express our emotions with smileys and it's melting my heart to see him smile in the cam when he gets my messages.
9. Make special occasions SPECIAL.
It is not everyday that a special day comes so when it does, it must be celebrated no matter how far apart you are. When I speak of special occasions, I mean birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, New Year and Valentine's Day. During these occasions, you can plan out some heavy-duty phone call or an extended online time for the evening. Regardless of whether you talk every night or a couple times a week, be sure you both carve out some time for that particular night. If you're too stingy to settle on a lengthy phone call, but have cheap and unlimited online access, plan to send instant messages to each other or meet in a private chatroom somewhere. If you can't be together, at least you can be "talking" and "spending some private moments together".
10. ENJOY LIFE!
Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your "life" is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.Anyway, we have our family and friends. What are these social beings surrounding us created for anyway?
Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever! For now, just be happy in knowing that across the miles there is someone who thinks you are so special, they are willing to engage in a terrible thing such as a long distance relationship. Keep in mind that your suffering is not forever since your loved one will be back soon and when that time comes, everything will be much sweeter than it was back then.
Rachelle Arlin Credo is an entrepreneur and relationship coach. She also works as an image consultant and part-time writer. Her stories, articles, essays and poetry have been published in various magazines and online publications.
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by: Rachelle Arlin Credo
Long distance relationships are dreadful. I know this because I'm currently living one. You watch other couples walk down the street hand-in-hand, kissing, etc., everyday and you can't do anything but envy them. So how can a long distance relationship work? How can you keep on loving someone if you can't even see them?
The answer is...it depends on how much you want it to work. True love can overcome any odds thrown in its path if you want it bad enough. So the question is, how do you do it? Well, I do not think that anyone knows exactly how to make it work, but I can certainly provide some points on making it work.
1. COMMUNICATION is the key.
In every relationship, whether near or far, if communication is taken for granted, it can cause the relationship to quiver until it eventually dies a natural death. That's why in any given circumstance, communication has to be given utmost importance. There are so many available media to ensure that the communication stays open. From snail mails and phone calls to chat systems and e-mails or e-cards. These media can be effective means to convey your hearts desires to your loved ones. Let them know about what you've been doing and thinking because in that way they will feel like they are there with you. This will also help you feel close even though you are miles apart.
2. Send off CARE PACKAGES.
It can be anything -- a little gift of flowers; a collection of the letters he has sent you designed artistically into a scrapbook; or your sweetheart's favorite jewelry -- it's really only limited to your imagination. Engaging yourself in this way is beneficial for both of you. You get to concentrate on gathering these items and putting them together, thus keeping your mind off not being together to a certain extent. Your loved one will see how much effort you put into it and how much you care. Even if it is nothing more than a card,it shows they mean enough to you that you can take the time to let them know. It never takes much money to show a little love with a small gift. Trust me, it can melt a heart!
3. Keep yourself BUSY.
You couldn't just sit there and wait 'til he comes back to you. What if he doesn't come back at all and all you did was sit and get your tummy flabby, won't that make you just miserable? You won't just be stunting your growth as an individual in the process but you'd also be developing emotional insecurities. In order to avoid that, you have to focus yourself on other things while waiting. Try to identify your passions. Get in touch with your creative nature. If you are a homebody, you can read tons of books which can help you grow intellectually and emotionally or you can choose to lounge before your computer and surf for hours to learn invaluable things over the internet. It's an endless "ways-to-make-yourself-busy" list and it is up to you to decide whichever you're interested to get involved in. But remember, being "busy" is not an excuse to forget your "special days" and worse yet, your loved one. You're doing it not just to occupy yourself but also to allow yourself to grow even with your lover's absence.
4. HONESTY is the best policy.
The path to true intimacy and connection especially in a long distance relationship is through "total honesty" to each other in the fullest sense of the words. By being authentic and telling your full truth to your loved one about your thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, issues, boundaries, etc., you are gradually building up a zone of confidence and comfort for both of you. This is very essential if you want your relationship to really last. Seeking to avoid conflict and maintain harmony by censoring yourself can work for a while but it won't take much time until your suppressed truth comes out in other ways, such as withdrawal, resentment, "acting out," etc. I know, sometimes, telling your whole truth can be difficult and even scary, but it will result in the kind of relationship that you really want-- a relationship where all the cards are laid in the table.
5. The value of TRUST
Trust is a very fundamental aspect in any relationship. That is because having trust in a relationship takes away doubt. When you trust someone you never have to question their motivation about anything and with mutual trust that relationship is solid. You must learn to be true to the relationship and must never give way to insecurities, strange feelings, suspicions and quick impulses because these will only bring your relationship down. Don't push away negative comments, or advice. Just trust in yourself and your partner. If you two are true to each other and have no hidden motives then you'll be alright. Remember "Love never fails."
6. COMMITMENT is a habit not an achievement
In every relationship, it is a must to be able to learn how to commit and be committed. For most long distance relationships, the very reason why they fail is because both parties couldn't go on with the commitment and they feel too weak to withstand the tribulations of time.If you have committed yourselves to each other without shilly-shallying, then you have a good promise ahead of you.Your comitment to each other will keep the passion alive and the fires burning thus sustaining the growth of the relationship.
7. PATIENCE is a virtue.
Being in a long distance relationship requires being steadfast and persevering. If you aren't this kind of person and you're involved in a long distance relationship, then as much as now, you better try to learn to be patient. Focus your attention on all the positive aspects of the relationship and never give your hopes up. Showing that you value your partner and the relationship and that you are willing to work patiently through it will let them know you truly love them.
8. WEBCAM
This is applicable only for those who have the comfort of having their own personal computers at home.But for those who don't, there are computers-for-rent in cafe's with webcams already attached to the computer system. Having a webcam is actually very fun and exciting. Even if you aren't together but looking at each other's face in the broad screen makes you feel like you're just so close, so near to your loved one. My boyfriend and I use Yahoo messenger to express our emotions with smileys and it's melting my heart to see him smile in the cam when he gets my messages.
9. Make special occasions SPECIAL.
It is not everyday that a special day comes so when it does, it must be celebrated no matter how far apart you are. When I speak of special occasions, I mean birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, New Year and Valentine's Day. During these occasions, you can plan out some heavy-duty phone call or an extended online time for the evening. Regardless of whether you talk every night or a couple times a week, be sure you both carve out some time for that particular night. If you're too stingy to settle on a lengthy phone call, but have cheap and unlimited online access, plan to send instant messages to each other or meet in a private chatroom somewhere. If you can't be together, at least you can be "talking" and "spending some private moments together".
10. ENJOY LIFE!
Not because your loved one is away, it doesn't mean that your "life" is taken away with him as he sets on for greener pastures. You have your own life to live and you must live it up to the purpose you were created for, with or without your loved one.Anyway, we have our family and friends. What are these social beings surrounding us created for anyway?
Remember,there are definite hardships associated with this relationship style but it is important that those who thrive in a long distance relationship see the suffering, difficulties, distance and time as tools in cultivating their love and rearing up the maturity in their relationship. The best you can do is to strive to be the best of who you are as a person while your partner is away so that when he comes back to you, you are already a full-grown individual whom he will love even more and be more proud of more than ever! For now, just be happy in knowing that across the miles there is someone who thinks you are so special, they are willing to engage in a terrible thing such as a long distance relationship. Keep in mind that your suffering is not forever since your loved one will be back soon and when that time comes, everything will be much sweeter than it was back then.
Rachelle Arlin Credo is an entrepreneur and relationship coach. She also works as an image consultant and part-time writer. Her stories, articles, essays and poetry have been published in various magazines and online publications.
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Listening To Your Partner
Listening To Your Partner
by: Callie Johnson
Do You Really Hear What Your Partner is Saying?
Listening to your partner can make or break a marriage, partnership or friendship. When I say listen I mean it in the sense of, ladies put your Women’s Day magazine down when your partner is trying to talk to you and Men turn of the ball game when your partner is trying to speak to you. Now you don’t have to go overboard with this quote such as ladies purposely trying to speak to your partner when you know his favorite team is playing or Men trying to speak to your partner when you know she is soaking up the bubbles in the tub with a good book.
Listening and Sensitivity go hand in hand and comes from the heart, when you really love your partner it should just come naturally. When one partner is speaking the other should be a good listener and pay attention to what is being said. Make eye contact with your partner when they are speaking to you as this lets them know that you are hearing what they are saying and that you do really care.
Being sensitive and listening to your partners needs is essential in any relationship in order for it to be a wonderful and happy partnership. Have you really listened to what your partner is saying today? If not try it and this will make your journey in life with your partner so much better and strengthen it to greater heights that you didn’t even know existed!
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by: Callie Johnson
Do You Really Hear What Your Partner is Saying?
Listening to your partner can make or break a marriage, partnership or friendship. When I say listen I mean it in the sense of, ladies put your Women’s Day magazine down when your partner is trying to talk to you and Men turn of the ball game when your partner is trying to speak to you. Now you don’t have to go overboard with this quote such as ladies purposely trying to speak to your partner when you know his favorite team is playing or Men trying to speak to your partner when you know she is soaking up the bubbles in the tub with a good book.
Listening and Sensitivity go hand in hand and comes from the heart, when you really love your partner it should just come naturally. When one partner is speaking the other should be a good listener and pay attention to what is being said. Make eye contact with your partner when they are speaking to you as this lets them know that you are hearing what they are saying and that you do really care.
Being sensitive and listening to your partners needs is essential in any relationship in order for it to be a wonderful and happy partnership. Have you really listened to what your partner is saying today? If not try it and this will make your journey in life with your partner so much better and strengthen it to greater heights that you didn’t even know existed!
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Keeping Love Alive
Keeping Love Alive
by: Mershon Niesner
I believe that finding, sustaining, growing, and enjoying satisfying relationships is one of greatest joys and challenges we have as human beings. We have generally been blessed with a tremendous desire to love and be loved; to listen and be listened to; to take care of and accept care from others. And yet meaningful, sustainable relationships often elude us – especially as it applies to the opposite sex.
Here are some things I’ve learned in my walk through life - as a divorced single mom, widower, and over 50 remarried - about finding and sustaining a “soul-mate” relationship:
1. Know who you are and what you want. You’ll never get what you want if you don’t know what it is. As women look for love, we often take what comes our way rather than seeking what and who we want. Knowing the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with comes from knowing who you are – your values, interests, what you can/will tolerate, what you won’t.
2. Learn how to disagree, speak your mind, and/or confront.
Avoiding conflict is death for a marriage. It may seem like you’re on the right path by never, ever arguing or disagreeing but avoiding conflict requires repression of anger, which leads to depression of feelings. Passion is extinguished in this environment. Learn to fight fair and keep the slate clear. (see article on What Are You Afraid Of?)
3. Speaking of passion – keep the fire lit! I think women often underestimate the critical role sexuality and having a really good sex life plays in a successful marriage. Men, you know what I’m talking about! Create romantic opportunities, ask for what you want, talk, talk, talk – do what you as a couple need to do to keep this aspect of your relationship alive and well.
4. Don’t allow children and child-raising to take precedence over your marital relationship. A great marriage is the best gift you can give your children. Get away from the kids on a regular basis. Find a good sitter! Arrange for an overnight with just the two of you at least once a year. Talk about matters other than the kids, the bills, the family. Someday it will just be the two of you again. Be sure you still know each other.
5. Take responsibility for your actions and affirm each other. Say, “I’m sorry” when you make a mistake or hurt your partner. Say, “Thank you” when they do something for you. Appreciate what your husband does! Don’t take “expected” action for granted. Recognition and affirmation are two of the best gifts you can give each other. Spend them freely.
6. Don’t take on the persona of, “I shouldn’t have to ask – he should know.” This is one of the greatest mistakes women make in a relationship. I hear women say things like, “But if I have to ask for it, the real meaning/pleasure/gesture is lost.” Get over it! Men can’t read our minds. They’re not always tuned in or on the same wave length. Maybe they just don’t know. Be a big girl and ask for what you want! (I’m pretty tough on this issue)
7. Get help if you need it. Don’t put your head under a bushel. If your relationship is in trouble (no matter whose “fault” either one of you thinks it is), seek out ways to make it better. Find a relationship coach, a therapist, a marriage counselor, a book – I highly recommend John Gray’s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus In the Bedroom (it’s on tape so you can listen to it together), Don’t give up – keep searching and talking and striving until things get better. The answer rarely lies in changing partners.
Coaching tip
Review what you have, what you want, the hidden or apparent treasure of love. If you have a soul mate, never, never take this relationship for granted. It is rare indeed!
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
The average man is more interested in a woman who is
interested in him than a woman with beautiful legs.
Marlene Dietrich, actress
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
Mershon Niesner, PCC, CPCC Professional Certified Coach
Author of Ribbons of Love – Affirmations for Abundant Living. Visit www.coachmershon.com to subscribe to the Business Woman’s Advantage ezine and other FREE Resources for Success.
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by: Mershon Niesner
I believe that finding, sustaining, growing, and enjoying satisfying relationships is one of greatest joys and challenges we have as human beings. We have generally been blessed with a tremendous desire to love and be loved; to listen and be listened to; to take care of and accept care from others. And yet meaningful, sustainable relationships often elude us – especially as it applies to the opposite sex.
Here are some things I’ve learned in my walk through life - as a divorced single mom, widower, and over 50 remarried - about finding and sustaining a “soul-mate” relationship:
1. Know who you are and what you want. You’ll never get what you want if you don’t know what it is. As women look for love, we often take what comes our way rather than seeking what and who we want. Knowing the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with comes from knowing who you are – your values, interests, what you can/will tolerate, what you won’t.
2. Learn how to disagree, speak your mind, and/or confront.
Avoiding conflict is death for a marriage. It may seem like you’re on the right path by never, ever arguing or disagreeing but avoiding conflict requires repression of anger, which leads to depression of feelings. Passion is extinguished in this environment. Learn to fight fair and keep the slate clear. (see article on What Are You Afraid Of?)
3. Speaking of passion – keep the fire lit! I think women often underestimate the critical role sexuality and having a really good sex life plays in a successful marriage. Men, you know what I’m talking about! Create romantic opportunities, ask for what you want, talk, talk, talk – do what you as a couple need to do to keep this aspect of your relationship alive and well.
4. Don’t allow children and child-raising to take precedence over your marital relationship. A great marriage is the best gift you can give your children. Get away from the kids on a regular basis. Find a good sitter! Arrange for an overnight with just the two of you at least once a year. Talk about matters other than the kids, the bills, the family. Someday it will just be the two of you again. Be sure you still know each other.
5. Take responsibility for your actions and affirm each other. Say, “I’m sorry” when you make a mistake or hurt your partner. Say, “Thank you” when they do something for you. Appreciate what your husband does! Don’t take “expected” action for granted. Recognition and affirmation are two of the best gifts you can give each other. Spend them freely.
6. Don’t take on the persona of, “I shouldn’t have to ask – he should know.” This is one of the greatest mistakes women make in a relationship. I hear women say things like, “But if I have to ask for it, the real meaning/pleasure/gesture is lost.” Get over it! Men can’t read our minds. They’re not always tuned in or on the same wave length. Maybe they just don’t know. Be a big girl and ask for what you want! (I’m pretty tough on this issue)
7. Get help if you need it. Don’t put your head under a bushel. If your relationship is in trouble (no matter whose “fault” either one of you thinks it is), seek out ways to make it better. Find a relationship coach, a therapist, a marriage counselor, a book – I highly recommend John Gray’s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus In the Bedroom (it’s on tape so you can listen to it together), Don’t give up – keep searching and talking and striving until things get better. The answer rarely lies in changing partners.
Coaching tip
Review what you have, what you want, the hidden or apparent treasure of love. If you have a soul mate, never, never take this relationship for granted. It is rare indeed!
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
The average man is more interested in a woman who is
interested in him than a woman with beautiful legs.
Marlene Dietrich, actress
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
Mershon Niesner, PCC, CPCC Professional Certified Coach
Author of Ribbons of Love – Affirmations for Abundant Living. Visit www.coachmershon.com to subscribe to the Business Woman’s Advantage ezine and other FREE Resources for Success.
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